To The Mother I Never Met

Legacy of an Adopted Child

Once there were two women who never knew each other,
One – you do not remember, the other you call mother.
Two different lives shaped to make yours,
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.
The first gave you life, and the second taught you to live in it.
The first gave you a need for love and the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality; the other gave you a name.
One gave you the seed of talent; the other gave you an aim.
One gave you emotions; the other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile; the other dried your tears.
One gave you up – that’s all she could do.
The other prayed for a child and God led her straight to you.
Now you ask through all your tears the age-old question through the years;
Heredity or environment – which are you a product of?
Neither, my darling – neither – just two different kinds of love.

To the mother I never met,

Sometimes I wish I could sit down with you over a cup of coffee and ask you some questions about the day you felt when you heard the news you where pregnant with a little girl. I can’t began to imagine…maybe excited? Scared? Nervous? Or perhaps sad because you knew that you would have to give me up one day. I would like to know how you and my birth dad met. What your names are. I would like to know if I had other siblings, a brother? A sister? Or maybe I was the only child? Do I have lots of cousins? Aunts? Uncles? I would like to know whos eyes I got, or smile. Yours or dads? Whos side of the family  did I get my shortness from? I would like to know why you picked Gua Li Ming for my name…Did you name me after a grandparent? Does it have a special meaning? When is my real birthday?

I would like to ask you about the day you left me. The day you left me all wrapped up in a blanket at the police station. Why did you choose to leave me there? Was it because you knew that someone would find me? Do you ever wonder where I am? Do you ever wonder what I look like? If I’m short? If I take after you or my birth dad? Do you ever wonder if I’m safe?

I just want to say, thank you. Thank you for caring about me enough to leave me at the police station. It might of been one of the hardest things you had to do, but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. The people at the police station took me to a orphanage and there they took care of me.

Across the ocean there was this white couple from a little town call Fair Play in South Carolina. They where told they couldn’t have kids of their own so they started with the adoption process. It was a along process with lots of  money and prayers! During that time, God blessed them with a miracle. A little baby boy of their own! So now they weren’t only going to have one baby, but two! The waiting process was long..one day, they received something in the mail. It was papers and a picture of a little girl. They where told they finally had a match. I was almost three years old. I didn’t know if this family wanted me, because on my papers it said I was a little three year old who was special needs. Who would want a special needs baby? They said I had a heart conditions. But that didn’t stop this family. They choose me. ME.  So after their little boy was born, they came for me! They told me it  was quite an adventure! But God made everything work out perfect.

They said that they remember when they first saw me. They said I drove up in a limo and my nanny opened the door. And in her arms, there I was. The little girl they have been praying for a long time. Who everyone was praying for.  I was tiny, I was dirty, and  I was scared. (I was also eating food.) They fell in love.

I want you to know I am good. I am safe. I am happy. I am better then good. I have a family who loves me and I wouldn’t trade them for anything. They taught me so many things. They taught me how to love, and that Jesus loves me. I have a brother who I am best friends with. I have a sister who is adopted too and because of that, we are close. I have some of the greatest friends in the world. I am 21 years old. I am currently living in Phoenix, Arizona working with children who need love like I did.

I would like to think that one day we will meet. If not here on this earth, up in heaven. If it wasn’t for that brave decision you made to leave me, I wouldn’t be here. Thank you.

          Aleisha Li Ming Boley

The first picture my parents got of me..

The first time they saw me.

my first time eating ice cream.

jamming out to music 😉

Eating again….

 

We where greeted by our church family and baby Kris when we got off the airplane

 

 

 

unsure of this little human…

 

So blessed.  (The Boley family 2016)

 

 

 

 

The Next Chapter

I’m sitting here wearing all black, my hair is up in a messy bun, and my feet are propped up on the chair in front of me. I’m am sitting here typing away on my lap top, listing to the sounds of coffee being made, and the music playing in the back ground. I have a half eaten pumpkin muffin and hot green tea sitting next to my laptop. Once in a while I looks up and obverses the people around me. I see two girls on their laptops working on collage papers and a guy on his laptop and writing things down. But I sees more then just young people on their laptops working on school, I see beautiful stories behind them….

Yesterday I had a good talk with one of my really good friends that I got to know, love and work with over this past year. We talked about the person I was when I first came out here to the person I am now. I use to always think I needed people beside me all the time. Now, I need time alone to function right. The way I see people, instead of putting them into a box  because of how they look. I like to get to know them and listen to their stories. And I know I’ve grown spiritually, I’m not saying I’m all holy and all..I know I just matured in that area and I know that God still has so much more to teach me!

This morning I got up early to escape and make some time for myself to just chill. I feel like life has been so busy and a little overwhelming.

After my family left, my cousin from Ohio came out to visit me for my birthday. She was here for a week. She hung out with me and helped with things around the mission that needed to be done. She got to help with our fall festival, which was awesome! One of the days we made a day trip to Rocky Point, Mexico with the Branden, Kegan and Lourdes. It was so much fun! We walked the streets and shopped a little in the little side shops. And then we went to the beach. That was my favorite part, Lourdes, Kegan and I jumped into the water with just the clothes we had. The water was the perfect temperature to swim in, we saw little black and yellow striped fish, caught a baby shrimp, and saw some sting rays. We also got to ride on banana boat. Then we ended the night by stopping on the side of the road to gaze at the beautiful stars. It was a good week! And it was fun having her out here.:)

chilling in Mexico 🙂

My cousin left on Wednesday and on that Friday another friend came out. Emily, a friend from South Carolina came for the weekend. The plan was to originally take me home, but since I extended my stay, we took that time and went to L.A California for a short girls trip. Everything worked out perfect, we got to stay with some really nice girls who let us stay at their small apartment for the weekend. Emily and I saw a lot of things in the two full days we where there!

Mr Holmes Bakery was my favorite little place!

Santa Monica Pier

The last book store was probably the biggest book store I have ever been to!

Stopping in at the flower market was a must do!

Because I can’t take plants home with me on the airplane, I bought the guys a cactus!

Emily left this past Tuesday…and then my friend, Dani from South Carolina came on Wednesday..yeah, I have been blessed with lots of company this past month. I love having them come out and see what my life is really like out here. Dani has just been chilling with me while she is here. I have gotten to take her out to lots of my favorite places to eat, we went shopping today and tomorrow she will be going to the Wild life zoo with us and some kids. She will be heading out Tuesday evening to go back home. Till then, we will continue to party on! 🙂

site seeing with some of my favorite people

It sounds like I have been parting a lot…I have been enjoying all the company I’ve been having. But having company hasn’t stopped my work. I still do everything and try to hang out with my friends. Though with the 3 other interns out here my load has lighten up some! And I’m so grateful for them!

Last Sunday, Carle Troyer from Holmes county, Ohio came out. She’s a artistic, sweet, and loves plants as much as I do. She has only been here for a week, but I can tell that she will do great with the girls here. Its so nice to know that when I leave, I’m leaving a girl intern here to take over my girls group. This past Thursday she joined my teen girls bible study. We made it a fun night by going somewhere and painting pottery. It was a good time for Carle to get to know the girls some and it was due for a fun girls night!

Our Monday night bible study also know as Fusion Night, at Aim Right North has grown and keeps growing. This past week we had 30 teens in our little building. With that many kids (mostly boys) sometimes it feels like we are doing more crowd control then getting to know them. Or maybe that’s just me since its harder for a girl to relate to these guys.

Here are some random pictures of a couple fall activities we’ve been up to..

Kegan and I took a group of teens hiking up Squaw Peak on Sunday evening…

 

 

So proud of this girl for making it to the top!

The view from the top

 

 

It may not look or feel like fall around here but it doesn’t mean we cant do fally things.:)

 

Saturday afternoons are good for pumpkin carving.

 

These last couple of weeks the thought of leaving has been on my mind a lot. I honestly don’t know how I’m gonna handle it when I step on that airplane. Right now, my heart is just breaking. It feels just like it did when I left home to come here. Good byes have always been really hard for me. But I guess things must come to a end so a new chapter of life can start. And who knows…God might bring me back here one day!

A couple things to keep in prayer…

As the holidays are coming up it gets pretty busy around here, so just pray that we remember the reasons for the seasons…

For my last month here just be a good one.

And for my health. Lately, I haven’t been feeling good..so I’m going to the doctor whenever I can get in. Its not fun to not have energy to make it through the day with our busy schedule here. So hopefully we can figure it out!

Have a blessed week!